the yours truly program

Become your most trustworthy self.

 
 

Here’s what I know about you…

You’re a person who can find equilibrium, ease and joy when you’re alone. 

But add your spouse or your boss or your mom or your kids or that tricky neighbor into the mix, and before you know it, you find yourself feeling more trapped or resentful or unseen than you’d like. 

So you say the jab, or take the high road, or stuff your feelings.

And you start dreaming about running away and living alone in a little cabin in the middle of nowhere where no one knows you or needs anything from you. 

The most frustrating part is you’ve done too much therapy and have too much self-awareness for it to still be this way. You know better. 

You know, it feels like your insides don’t match your outsides. And you’re no longer willing to tolerate that.

Yours Truly™ is a comprehensive online program that will give you the tools and understanding necessary to not just know better, but to do better.

It’s designed to help you move from cerebral to embodied living, from conditioning to realness, from self-sufficiency to sufficient self, and from untrustworthy to yourself to trustworthy to yourself.

You’ll have everything you need to have a life where you have the conviction, courage, and competence to be true to yourself and your values in your relationships and in the world. 

You deserve that, my dear.

Yours truly,


Join the hundreds of people (just like you!) who’ve done this transformational work.



 
 
 

Yours Truly™ will help you…

  • learn to balance your body, brain and nervous system

  • make decisions and take action as if your needs mattered

  • feel more at home in your own skin

  • deepen your relationships with friends, colleagues, and family

  • enjoy more closeness and harmony in your romantic relationship(s)

  • become more accepting of others and their differences

  • act with integrity and confidence in all your interactions with people

  • be in your body, heart and spirit more and in your mind, anxiety and fear less


Yours Truly™ is unlike any other program.

Yours Truly brings together the practices and theory of embodiment and nervous system regulation along with cutting edge education in social, emotional and relational education. 

It’s designed to not only teach you how to have healthy and fulfilling relationships with yourself and others, but also to address the part of you who keeps you stuck in your not-so-healthy-and-fulfilling old relational habits (hint: your nervous system)!

The program includes:

  • Expert learning design through over 50 short and informative videos that build upon one another

  • Worksheets and handouts to support you in applying what you learn to your life 

  • Incorporation practices to help you embody key learnings

  • Weekly emails to accompany you through your learning and keep you on track. (The average learner takes 2-3 months to complete the program.)

  • Invitation to participate in monthly group coaching calls with Jay for coaching, community and connection around the Yours Truly curriculum

Hear from a Yours Truly participant about her experience.

 
 

Is this for you?

Here is a simple way to assess if this program is a good fit for you…

 

Yours Truly™ IS for you if:

  • You’re in a new job or relationship, newly sober, or just newly and truly fed up with old patterns—and you want to make sure old behaviors don’t keep showing up

  • You have a lot of self-awareness and emotional intelligence, but it doesn’t translate into your actions as much as you’d like it to

  • You understand that deep personal change is on a dimmer switch, not an on-off switch

  • You’ve been running a marathon against your inner voices and you want to rest

  • You’re tired of doing all the work in your relationships

  • You’d like to stop being loyal to others at your own expense

  • You are ready to strengthen your relationships

Yours Truly™ is NOT for you if:

  • You are in crisis or trauma or feeling unstable

  • You have urgency around wanting a magic bullet to “fix you”

  • You don’t see why looking at your past or feeling your feelings matters

  • You’re not interested in being real with yourself or others

 
 

FAQ

  • My Linkedin Learning courses are a quick, self-directed way of learning what I consider are the basics for living in a body and relating with yourself and others as it comes to your emotions, your nervous system, and the different parts of you who show up in different scenarios. What you would have learned in those courses is a fabulous foundation, and parts of it we will revisit in Yours Truly. But those courses are only that—a foundation. Yours Truly™ offers the whole relational blueprint and time to build, in detail and with expert guidance, the internal and external structures needed for actual change in your life. The content in Yours Truly™ is exactly what I share with my 1:1 clients over a year of in-depth work together, so it’s a deep and comprehensive dive that creates lasting change.

  • I find that most people take two to three months to go through and engage with all of the content. Though the videos are mostly between 5-10 minutes each, they are dense with information and are designed to build upon one other.
    I’d recommend setting aside a few hours each week to complete a collection of lessons and the corresponding handouts and worksheets to help you integrate your learning. Though you certainly could complete the program more quickly, having time to practice and embody your new learning is important. Most people report watching the videos many times over the course of a year or more simply to help them solidify their understanding and their ability to apply their learning in their daily life.

  • You will have access to the videos and resources for as long as this course lives online so you can revisit the content as you are applying your learning in real life.

  • Yes! When you sign up for Yours Truly you’ll be invited to participate in monthly calls with Jay for group coaching, community and connection around the Yours Truly content. These 90 minute small-group coaching calls are $24 to drop in.

  • Yes! I have two expert coaches who are trained in the Yours Truly curriculum who you can work with. You can learn more here.

  • Yes, you can split the investment over 3 payments of $160.
    If cost is a barrier for you, please reach out to me at jay@jay-fields.com.

  • Maybe! Some of my students have had success getting this program reimbursed through their employer’s wellness or learning & development budget. Even if your company doesn’t have a formal policy, it’s worth asking. Want help on how to ask? Click here for a proposal template to send to your manager.

  • Yes! Closed captioning/subtitles and transcripts are available for each of the videos.

  • No! Yours Truly™ addresses ALL kinds of relationships. People aged 21 to 72 have taken Yours Truly, some of whom were primarily there to work through their relationship with themselves, others who wanted to change the dynamic in their marriages, and some who wanted to change how they related with their kids or grandkids or friends.

    It’s also true that people take Yours Truly™ to address how they show up at work, either as a manager leading a team, as a self-employed person risking putting themselves out there in more authentic ways, or as someone who wants to feel more confident and resilient in their role and to find more work-life balance. The cool thing is, no matter where you feel most stuck or tripped up relationally, you will learn concepts and skills that will help you shift for the better in every relationship you have.

    And if you do happen to be single, when you do find yourself dating again, you’ll have a stellar set of skills that will help you to build a healthy romantic relationship from day one or to discern early on if it’s best to just move on.

  • I’ve been coaching a long time, and though it’s true that everyone has a unique story, I’ve found that there are definitely patterns of how our stuck places developed, and that many of us have the same blindspots and maladaptive behaviors that lead to the same kinds of outcomes. In fact, I developed this course precisely because I was doing the exact same things over and over again with my 1:1 clients and it worked with everyone. So while you are unique, your problems likely aren’t. And that’s good news! It means I’ve helped people like you before, and know how to get you unstuck.

  • I know this isn’t a question, but I hear this a lot and you might be thinking this after reading the answer to the previous question. I get that being busy can feel like a very real barrier. But to that I’d say if you’re busy now, will there ever be a truly “right” time when you’re not busy? It’s likely that your extreme busy-ness is sourced from a way of relating that leaves out your needs, puts everyone else first and keeps you go, go, going. The way to stop that isn’t to push off this type of learning, it’s to commit to it and watch your schedule change because of the new skills you have.

 
 
 

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