I believe all people want to experience being fully alive as their truest self, but they just don't know how to actually do it.
That’s where I come in.
After twenty years of teaching, coaching, immersing myself in personal practice and geeking out on research, I’ve created a body of work that truly helps people to get out of their own way and to be who they really are without the self-doubt, self-criticism and the added stress and anxiety.
Sometimes it seems crazy and sad to me that we don’t just naturally know how to do this. But the more experience I’ve developed, the more I’ve come to appreciate just how many odds are stacked against us really being there for ourselves. There are a whole slew of neurobiological, cultural and relational odds that make it hard for us to turn toward ourselves with kind attention and to show up as ourselves with integrity in our work and relationships.
Because of that, the approach to learning how to stay with yourself and how to live with integrity has to be interdisciplinary and address the whole person. My work is a blend of mindfulness, somatic experiencing, neuroscience and attachment theory. So, yes, it’s based in proven theories and practices woven together in a unique way, but it’s also based in my experience of being human.
I consider myself an expert at helping people have their own back not because I’m naturally very good at it myself, but because I used to be so very, very bad at it and now I’m pretty damn decent.
In fact, though I have lots of formal education and experience, I think my street cred comes from the fact that empathy is my super power. That means I’m awesome at my job because I am really good at sensing the feelings of other people by imagining myself in their situation or their lives. It also means that things like setting boundaries and showing up for myself have been hard won because my default setting is to orient myself to other peoples’ needs, comfort and thoughts about me.
I suspect you know all about this, too. I suspect you are also someone who is super smart and super sensitive and, despite being mostly happy with your life, have some ways that you continually feel tripped up from the inside out despite years of mindfulness practices or therapy, or both.
I suspect you also have figured out by now that having your own back isn’t a cerebral activity. If it were, you would have already nailed it. Having your own back requires a felt and reliable connection with your body, and that, unfortunately, often means coming into contact with uncomfortable sensations and emotions.
In fact, if you’re really available to life on a sensing/feeling level and to playing big, you’ll find that there’s a whole hell of a lot that’s uncomfortable. But I promise you: discomfort won’t kill you. In fact, you’ll find that in the midst of discomfort is also strength, compassion, confidence and a way forward that is so much more easeful. And the more you learn to stay with yourself, the more you’ll be able to build a relationship with yourself that is secure and loving and trustworthy. And that is how you get to be you and feel fully alive.
When you’re ready, I'm here to help.
the official bio:
Jay Fields, M.A. E-RYT is a somatic educator, therapeutic coach and author who has taught the principles of Awareness-Based Self-Regulation to individuals and organizations for 19 years. Her approach to helping people have their own back at work and in life is grounded, playful, empathic and intelligent. Jay received her BA in Psychosocial Health and Human Movement from the College of William and Mary and her masters in Integral Transformative Education from Prescott College. She is the author of the book Teaching People, Not Poses and is on the board for The School of Lost Borders. When not working with clients or facilitating trainings, you can find Jay riding her motorcycle in the mountains outside of Ojai, California where she lives.